A Review of Leil Lowndes Book, How to Make Anyone Fall in Love With You: 85 Proven Techniques for Success

How to make anyone fall in love with you, book by Leil LowndesThis book is well written and is quite a fascinating walk-through that attempts to expose the ingredients necessary to make anyone fall in love with you.

Leil Lowndes’ book ultimately disbands the belief that we as human beings don’t have any control over who we fall in love with. Instead, Leil suggests that there are indeed things we can do to make ourselves firstly more attractive and also to display characteristics and qualities that the opposite sex would find desirable.

Leil Lowndes, a world-renowned relationships expert, writes the guide in a witty manner, revealing tricks and secrets that enable you to ensnare anyone you desire, or so she claims.

The book is definitely brimming with interesting information, most of which is based on sociological research studying the behaviour of humans, body language, sexuality and the communication between males and females.

The book not only teaches the reader how to make someone fall in love with you, but it also has tips on how to make a person feel butterflies in their tummy, how to make a good first impression and even advice on how to drive your partner crazy in the bedroom!

What I liked about this book is that it has substantial roots in social research and the study of human behaviour. This is a nice change from many similar books that are currently in circulation.

Leil conveys her message in an entertaining way with delightful anecdotes, which sometimes create humorous imagery for the reader. The book is an easy read and is something that the reader may want to keep to refer to in the future.

The book has many positive reviews from people who have tried the techniques suggested by Leil to conclusive effect. I also tried some of the techniques with my partner, and it did seem to have a positive impact.

Regardless if there is much mileage in the actual techniques, reading Lowndes’ book certainly does cause you to look at people and your social interactions in a different way, which is helpful.

Beyond dating, love and attraction, Lowndes’ book can also be a positive benefit to people looking to improve their social skills. This is because the book gives the reader a real insight into how we communicate, not just with our words but also with our body language and through implication.

The techniques could indeed be viewed as manipulative. However, I think this is only dependent upon the intentions of the user. Having a greater insight into how people function socially could certainly be beneficial in many aspects of life, including business.

The book is suitable for both men and women as it gives an excellent overview of human social interaction and explains principles that apply to both sexes. However, due to the sociological and cultural etiquette of dating, women may find more value in the book with regards to how to make a man fall in love, whereas men will probably get more mileage from learning about approaching, conversing and attracting a woman.

About the Author
Leil Lowndes has world recognition as an expert in communication and has also held conferences on the subject of effective communication for prominent companies in the USA, freeing governments and even the US Peace Corps. Leil is also known for her appearances on a multitude of radio and TV shows.


A great book to help to understand human communication and behaviour with regards to love, dating and relationships. Nicely written, which makes it an enjoyable read and the information is very helpful for helping both men and women spark the romantic connection with a member of the opposite sex.

Here is the audio version of the book

A Review of Love And Treasure By Ayelet Waldman

hardback cover of love and treasure by Ayelet WaldmanAyelet Waldman‘s novel Love and Treasure is an intricate, far-reaching tapestry of a story that covers the entirety of the 20th century and even more. The central talisman of the story is a stylized, bejeweled peacock pendant that weaves in and out of the lives of six different lovers in some of the most intriguing and thrilling parts of history. Three different women over the course of the story’s long scope go searching for the pendant and the meaning behind it, ensnaring three men in the peacock’s captivating web.

These characters include a groundbreaking psychiatrist in 1914 Budapest, a captain in the US Army during the Second World War, and a contemporary art trader born in Israel. The mysterious questions raised by the peacock and its story lead the characters — and the reader — to ponder the meaning of gifts and treasures when they are ripped away from the people who first cherished them?

Waldman’s story spirits the reader through a turbulent century of European (and global) politics and culture, starting in fin-de-siecle Budapest, staying over in Salzburg in the aftermath of the war, and coming to rest at last in modern New York. At the beginning of the tale, the peacock pendant is a token of friendship. Before the story is over, it will become a symbol of love, a talisman of misfortune, and more. Each of the characters that encounters this central object is dramatically changed by the experience.

Love and Treasure stretch across multiple continents embrace the history of an entire century and delves deeply into the worlds of psychoanalysis, art, and feminism. Most importantly, it retains real insight into ordinary human feelings against the backdrop of its historical sweep. It’s a definite triumph for Waldman, and it’s no wonder that The Guardian called Love and Treasure both ambitious and perceptive.

The book is difficult to put down once the reader gets caught up in its enthralling narrative. The events unfold in dramatic rather than chronological order, sending the reader back and forth across the decades to look closely at the forces at work before, during, and after the Holocaust. The author is careful to paint compelling portraits of her characters even as they grapple with the 20th century’s weightiest issues.

The story begins with Natalie Stein, a divorcee striving to find some meaning in her life by locating the heir of a little-known relic from WWII. As Waldman confidently weaves Stein’s story into those of the other women who have come into contact with the novel’s central pendant, she delights the reader with different aspects of a story that is at times a romance, at times a thriller, and even at times a historical text.

Beyond being a book about women, or about Jews, or about the early days of psychoanalysis, Love and Treasure are most of all about what it means to be human — and to remain so — in the face of both triumph and tragedy. No shortage of novels deal with the Holocaust, but few tackle the subject with such ambition and subtlety as Waldman’s book.

Short Book Review on Elif Shafak´s The Forty Rules of Love

front cover of the forty rules of loveElla Rubenstein seems to have everything a woman would need to feel as if her life is fulfilled; she should feel secure and confident. She has a husband, three teenagers and a lovely home however Ella’s life feels empty at the core, where once was filled with love is now bare.

Ella is shocked when she reads a manuscript on the thirteenth century Sufi poet and the Shams of Tabriz on his forty rules of love and life. She leaves her family behind and sets off on a journey in which she hopes to meet this mysterious author that has sparked her interest through his writing.

This will be a quest full of Sufi poetry and mysticism, one which will lead Ella into an exotic world brimming with the heartbreaking exploration of faith and love.

This book received great reviews from sources such as The Times and the Daily Telegraph. However, this book although at first fascinating quickly turned into a tragic farce. In the end the protagonist, Ella, relying on not only the teachings of Sufi love but also a superficial overlay of Islamic Beliefs to commit adultery.

Sufism advocates Self-abandonment; this was more along the lines of glorification of self-indulgence. This in no way glorifies the love of God, but greater motivates one to give in to their lower desires not stopping to consider how this may affect anyone else.

Ella seems to behave in either a dormant manner or completely egotistical, she is either putting up with the infidelities of her husband or leaving her family behind to delve into infidelities of her own. God in the form of love symbolizes among so many things honor, fidelity, duty and dignity all of which are completely thrown away.

She chooses to instead of rekindling love within her marriage with her husband who has been with her for over twenty years and with whom she has had three children to run away with a man she barely knows. This is not real love but more of a form of hopeless escapism. However, taken as a fictional fantasy for the reader to indulge in escapism, this can be a great read.

There is a term which was coined by the Greeks — agape which stands for a love of God, enlightened beings for each other that is spiritual, divine and unconditional, in this book the author clearly confuses agape with Eros.

For it’s good points, the author is a talented and delightful storyteller who makes this seductive portrayal an indulging read. However, the tendencies of the heroin are basically destructive and narcissistic, which is something that Sufism is not.

About the Author

Elif Shafak is an award-winning novelist and is known as the most read female writer in Turkey. Here writings are both in English and Turkish, and she has published a total of thirteen books, nine of them are novels. For more information look at her page www.elifshafak.com.


This book is a great read for someone who wants to escape into the fantasy of being able to throw caution to the wind and follow your primal instincts without regard for the consequences. However, it is not a good reflection of the spirit of Sufism.

Book Review Of A Tale Of Love And Darkness – By Amos Oz

Cover of AMos Oz's novel, A Tale of Love and DarknessIn this moving, extraordinary story by Amos Oz, there is a strong focus on two powerful forces in both love and darkness. This is a seductive journey that takes the reader through his childhood as well as his adolescence, throughout the war-town Jerusalem streets in the 1940s and 50s and then into a complex marriage between his parents.

On one side you have his father who is logical and fussy while on the other side you have his mother who is romantic and dreamy. Right between these two forces is a small boy that holds the weight of many on his shoulders and the tragic heart of this story falls on the suicide of his mother when Amos was only twelve and a half.

Amos Oz’s story goes right into a story and family history that includes the love/hate affair between Jewish society and Europe to include regions like Odessa and Vilna all the way to Israel. Just a few aspects that keep up this magical portrait include heartbreak, farce, humanity and history.

This is an artist that was able to see the birth of a nation while breaking through into a life of his own. This is truly a memoir that is quite like no other and one that you will surely want to read again and again.

From Novel to Movie

In a film that emerged from the book and directed by Natalie Portman, this tragic and enthralling autobiographical epic comes through from the best-selling author of Israel, Amos Oz.

This is a story that works on a historical, political and philosophical level. However, this book’s success comes where the themes come in, how they are translated and how they all relate. The experiences and all of the other aspects impact both Oz and his family.

Overall, this story comes with a sad and moving undertone that stems all the way back to the recollection of his grandparents.

The story is very much about the manner in which Oz searches for understanding as to why his mother committed suicide and the impact that it had on his life.

If you are looking to learn more about the birth of Israel, Palestine or the Holocaust, there are many more books available today that will go further into detail. However, you are going to get more of the ecstasy and emptiness of these events and how they mould into this incredibly personal story about a boy, his life, and his family.


This was a very interesting read and it dives right into the history of the region while bringing about a much more involved understanding of the feelings and psyche of a lot of the first Jewish citizens to make their way to Israel. This is a book that revealed the symbolism of new settlers that were learning for their homeland and torn between looking for a new homeland in the face of such diversity and mounting anti-Semitism.

The Promised Land – by Roberta Kagan

front cover of The Promised Land, by Roberta KeganThis is a gripping book set during post-World War II era.

The story begins with Zofia Weiss, who was robbed of all she held dear during the Holocaust. She lost her home; her friends were all killed, and the Secret State Police imprisoned the man she loved. After Zofia had searched through many displaced people in the camps, she found nothing. She was sure that her lover was dead. Only her life, her dream, and a terrifying secret remain. Zofia sneaks aboard the Exodus, which is bound for Palestine.

With a group of emaciated Jewish survivors, she sets forth to find what is known as The Promised Land. In spite of her renewed hope, she lives in fear since the person who knows her deep dark secret is an SS Officer that is sadistic and holds the power to ruin further her life and that of an innocent Lebenshborn child.

When the Nuremberg trials go forth and convict the officer of crimes against humanity, she finally feels free. She does her best to raise the gorgeous girl that has been entrusted to her care. As the child turns into a woman, she will find true love and belong in this post-war civilization, or, will she find out the terrible secret of her heritage and be torn apart?

Sadly, I have just finished this sequel to My Sunshine, and now it’s at an end. As fantastic as this is, both books are excellent in fact, the characters are very believable. It’s a great read and ideal for men and women. Roberta Kagan is a great author and now counted amongst my favorites. Perfect as a companion to the Exodus novel regarding the Jews and Israel.

Back-Story to the Novel

It’s important to note that Roberta Kagan also has a pen name of Carli Lauren (for young adult reads) and Veronika Knight (for mysteries and paranormal reads).

There is an interesting back-story to these brilliant novels that she has created. As a child, Roberta’s mother had a black suitcase, which she kept in the basement that Roberta wasn’t allowed to open. Of course, the first thing you tell a child not to do is the first thing that said the child is going to do, so she just felt compelled to open it.

One afternoon, while her mother was out, Roberta snuck down to the basement to see what mysteries lay inside the black suitcase. Inside she found old photographs and letters. The letters were in a foreign language. She couldn’t help but to know more, so she confessed her crime, asking her mother about it, and it was then that she discovered that her entire extended family had been killed in Germany during the Holocaust. Her father, a Romany also lost his family during this period as well. Thus started her fascination and search for the truth. She wrote several novels and a short story during this time frame. All are under her actual name of Roberta Kagan.


This is a great book and well worth the read. If it grabs you as it did me, then no doubt you will find yourself compelled to read the more from Roberta Kagen.